Life’s Daily Inspiration A Mans friends!

Life’s Daily Inspiration A Mans friends!

Life’s daily inspiration In Man Friend!
Life’s daily inspiration In Man Friend!

Life’s Daily Inspiration in a man who showed himself friendly

               We as humans want to define what a person has accomplished in life by what they have or own.

But, it’s not right. You can be poor as a church mouse and be very

wealthy indeed.

Last week I lost a dear friend to stage 4 lung cancer with metastasis to bone, liver and multiple other places.

His name was Mr. Fred and he was eighty years young.

He didn’t know what slow down and pace yourself meant. He lived every day as if it was his last. A real “life’s daily inspiration.” Mr. Fred lived life to the fullest.

Mr. Fred went to the ER on Christmas Eve. He was still walking on but he was in a lot of pain. He had been cutting brush out at his farm the week before and ended up with a total of nine ribs fractured. Supposedly from cutting brush.

The hospital doctor gave him pain meds and sent him home He was to make a Doctors appointment with his regular Doctor the following week.

His regular doctor wasn’t convinced of the ER doctors diagnosis. The X-rays didn’t look just like broken ribs.

The next appointment was with an oncologist. His family Doctor got him an appointment ASAP for 3 days later.

The oncologist scheduled several tests before his appointment.

Again Mr. Fred walked into his appointment with his son Luke with him. The news was bad . He had stage 4 lung cancer with Mets to the bone, liver, pancreas and multiple other places.

The Oncologist sent him home with Hospice.

That’s how I got involved. We had been friends for a few years. The family knew I had retired but after explaining he likely had days only his son asked If I would care for him at home.

This sweet little teddy bear of a gentleman every holiday for the last two years brought me either a slab of smoked ribs or smoked pork butt. ( the whole thing) or a whole smoked Turkey.

Why did you say? To show me how much he appreciated my care of his wife Elaine.

 Life’s daily inspiration In  Man Friends!
Life’s daily inspiration In Man Friends!

That was not necessary and I had told him so repeatedly. But, he said it was something he could do.Before each holiday he would call me up and say, he was on his way with my barbecue. He always told he would never forget how good I was to his whole family.

I tried to tell him I treated everyone the same. But, truthfully some are easier to love. Mr. Fred was one of those.

I came to care for Mr. Fred around 4:30 on Tuesday evening on the eighth of January. Which believe it or not was the anniversary of his wife’s death two years before on the eighth.

They say it’s a small world and I believe it.

Mr. Fred had been hanging out in his recliner for the last week. If he wasn’t at the the doctor’s office, he was sitting in the recliner day and night. Those ribs made it impossible to lie down and then get up to go to the bathroom.

I met his son Luke and his Daughter June at 4:30 like I’d said. A hospice admissions nurse came 20 minutes later to admit him to hospice.

He slept in the recliner that night. We would get the new meds from the hospice pharmacy the next morning. The next morning Mr. Fred was in a lot of pain until we got the meds from the hospice pharmacy. A short time later Mr. Fred was in no pain for the first time in a week and a half. I was able to clean him up and put him in bed for the first time in a week in a half. He had a lot of company that 2 days. 54 friends and relatives came to see their friend and loved one. He had a good night was very comfortable.No pain with new pain meds.

The 3rd day found Mr. Fred unable to get up. Awake off and on part of the morning. But, unable to speak. By early afternoon he was unresponsive to all.

He had over 38 people come by that afternoon and morning.

6:30 am the next morning I called the family. The son came ASAP the daughter started up from Atlanta Ga. His sister Susan came who lived in town. Mr. Fred died around 11:15 am , a half hour after his daughter arrived. Friends and family continued to arrive until around 4 pm.

This man’s legacy wasn’t in his earthly processions but rather his legacy was in his friends left behind. He always had time for a friend. He was a natural encourager and an inspiration to those that new him.

Proverbs 18:24

A man that hath friends must be found friendly. And there is a friend that sticketh closer than a brother.

Thanks for reading with Elaine and I please let us know how you’ve liked our story.

Blessings,

Scarlett and Elaine

“Life’s Daily Inspiration” Christmas Past!

“Life’s Daily Inspiration” Christmas Past!

  

“Life’s Daily Inspiration” Christmas Past
“Life’s Daily Inspiration” Christmas Past


Let me share some of my favorite Christmas memories. Even
  though it’s been years they are still sharp in my mind and they remain a life’s daily inspiration to this day.

When I was about 7 or so we would travel to Albany, Kentucky for Christmas week. The whole family piled into the car. Mother packed our gifts usually 3 a piece and off we would go. Oh, a Life’s Daily Inspiration for sure.

Funny I remember the trips because my Dad would never stop for bathroom breaks. Lol ,he would holler before we left “stop now and go before we leave this house or hold it!”

 And he meant it . My brother Carl tested it every time. Once my Dad made him pee in a bottle. My brother was humiliated and never forgot it. Guess you might say he was traumatized Lol. 

   Not sure why our Dad  never wanted to stop. It might I guess have had something to do with he was sick of all the arguing. Usually started by my brother putting his feet on me. No kidding. My Dad would always say now stay on your side of the car both of you. Don’t make me stop or you will get a whipping. Got it? To which we always answered yes sir! There were no yeps or okays when you answered my father. We knew to answer yes sir. To bad kids today don’t have that same respect.

  Anyway off to Kentucky we’d go. I always took 2 gallons of water. Why? Have you never had to drink sulfur water?

Well, they claim it’s very good for you. But tastes horrid. My grandparents and Aunt both had it at their houses. While my dad grew up drinking it. He always managed to talk me out of water for coffee.

   Then there was my dads much younger brother and sisters still at home. All of us slept upstairs without any heat. Under tons of blankets.

  My Uncle Vernon always whittled us something for Christmas. Yes, I said whittled. He made rifles hand carved. Then put a clothes pen where the hammer of the gun would be. That was we could shoot rubber bands at each out. Just like a slingshot worked. He also made handguns the same way.

Yep imagination that was our greatest asset. Out back of the farm house was two old cars they were rusted out. No windshield. No glass at all actually. No seats except for the springs.

We played every conceivable scenario with those old junk heaps. Spending hours playing. Without one electronic toy.

 Then we would go to the barn and play in the hay loft when we thought we could get by with it. We would start up my granddads old tractor. The  older boys would put us in the hay wagon and pull us around the farm. It was great fun as long as we didn’t get caught. But, as always there was a pay day Lol.

  Every evening that week we would work on making Christmas ornaments.

There were not any store bought ornaments back then. We made homemade gingerbread cookies. Making a hole at the top to hang them. 

 

“Life’s Daily Inspiration” Christmas Past
“Life’s Daily Inspiration” Christmas Past

We made stars and other shapes like angels, churches out of aluminum foil and cardboard. We strung popcorn and cranberries. We didn’t have any lights. But on Christmas morning we could light candles for about 15 minutes and sing Christmas carols. 15 minutes because of danger of fire. My grandparents didn’t have TV or electric lights. Not even an inside restroom. No, we used to the outhouse. My least favorite thing at grandmas house.

   But some of the most memorable Christmas Holidays happened at my grandparents house.

There both gone now but the memories I will have with me forever.

please leave us your comments below our share a memory from your Christmas past with us.

“Life’s Daily Inspiration” A Gift In November!

“Life’s Daily Inspiration” A Gift In November!
“Life’s Daily Inspiration” A Gift In November!

   “Life’s Daily Inspiration” A Gift In November!

November brought another birthday! Number 62 hooray! A “Life’s Daily Inspiration” for me. And with it a present from me, to me Lol. Well, it’s a guaranteed way to get what you want for your birthday. Although that’s not why I got this particular gift. 

   It was to help me through the tough times of the holidays without my Mom who died August 30th at the age of 93 years old.

I not only lost my Mom but also the child she had become.

  But, that’s a previous story so back to this particular story.

   Oh, he is handsome and very talkative, smart, an awesome personality.  I should mention he snores terribly.  Eats everything in sight. And drinks

heavily, water that is. His ears are a little large.

But, of course, I am talking about my new dog. Or puppy to be exact .Not just any old pup but my new pup. His name is Fred. Unless he’s been really sweet then I call him Freddie. And likewise, when I am mad at him he is Frederick. 

What can I say is I was dazzled by those big gorgeous eyes. He is everything you could ask for in a mans best friend. Or in this case a woman’s. 

“Life’s Daily Inspiration” A Gift In November!
“Life’s Daily Inspiration” A Gift In November!

All jokes aside a daughter of a former patient both raises and shows Australian Shepherds. And also puts them through competition  agility courses. Lucky for me. So when I decided I wanted a puppy. I called her. And she had part of a litter left that she was selling. They were about three months old. She had both a female and a male. I chose the male. 

  She brought him up the day before Thanksgiving. Which couldn’t have been better!As Mom and I always spent the day together for Thanksgiving and Christmas. 

I was dreading all those memories flooding in all day long. Oh, there always there that’s true but the thought of that whole day. I just dreaded it. Definitely, not one of my “life’s daily inspirations.”

So my friend Brenda came up from Atlanta Georgia about 10am. From my first glance at the little stinker, I knew I’d done the right thing.

Of course, ask me at 2 am on a potty break and you might hear me second guessing myself. Fred loves to play tirelessly and is just like a 2-year-old , he needs to be entertained. Between walks till he drops for about an hour and then we do it again all over. 

But he makes me laugh out loud at his silliness. And he smart as a whip. I taught him to sit on command. In one afternoon. 

Thanksgiving was a terrible day made better by Fred’s company and antics. Everything was new to him and he still brightens the dark moments. He may not talk in words but he has no problem letting you know what he wants. 

He very stubborn or as the professionals call it free thinking. Evidently being bred to be working dogs. These dogs have a mind of their  own.  

“Life’s Daily Inspiration” A Gift In November!
“Life’s Daily Inspiration” A Gift In November!


He’s finding out his new Mom wrote the book on being stubborn Lol. So he has more than met his match.

  My neighbor puts out a nativity scene every year and lights all over the front of the house. The first night the neighbor turned it on Fred stopped dead in the middle of the drive and just stared. He’d look at it then at me. I on the other hand, was dying laughing.

I went to take him closer to check it out. He wouldn’t budge an inch toward it. Instead my fearless pup turns and bolted straight into my arms. 

I think telling me, protect me mom, Mom they’re gonna get me. It took 3 days to get him over there. Oh there was no coaxing ,he still sat and refused to be moved.

So being the inventor of stubborn, I carried him whining all the way ,sat him down and up he jumps in my arms. My big bad dog! 

So I put him down again holding him by his collar and made him touch it with his nose. This time he barked and tried to run but I made him come back while I touched it several times. 

While this time he tried to herd me away from it. Gone was his fear he had to protect me from those terrible “Things” whew! 

After his repeated attempts to rescue me from the lighted monsters. He decided to sniff one. Then he licked it ,then we went for his bathroom break. Then finally returned to our house. 

Only now he insists on visiting our new buddies in plastic nightly. Well, what can I say, guess he finally has me trained.

thank you so much for reading our life’s daily inspiration story today please leave us a comment below. And maybe share about your Thanksgiving Holidays.

Blessings,

Scarlett and Elaine